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I just got off the phone with a friend who’s been struggling with her business.

I could feel her pulling her hair out on the other end of the phone when she said, “I’ve done EVERYTHING and nothing is working!!”

I asked her, “What’s everything that you’ve done?”

She listed off some actions that she’s taken to build her business. As I listened to her, ideas and strategies that she hadn’t tried yet began popping into my mind. I was pumped to flood her with more possibilities.

Once my friend finished sharing I started rattling off my ideas.

One idea after the next, I heard, “yeah … but …” followed by some reason for why it wasn’t going to work, or that she had kinda-sorta done that, or some other obstacle that was in the way for why it wasn’t possible.

After slinging out 4 ideas, and getting smacked down by ‘yeah but’s,’ I felt myself getting frustrated. (I could see why she was stuck and frustrated!)

I stopped sharing, and I stopped her by asking, “Do you even want this to work? Because everything I’m sharing with you, you keep shooting it down. You keep coming up with some excuse or reason for why it’s not going to work, and that’s what’s blocking you from what you want. It feels like you’ve got more reasons for why it won’t for than you do for why it will.”

Now, I’m not saying that my ideas were the ones that were going to catapult her into the impact and success she wanted, but being closed off to possibilities is definitely not going to get you what you want.

Those two words, “Yeah … but …” are dream killers. Those two words block out possibilities and keep you stuck. Those two words have you focus on what won’t work rather than what will.

If you feel blocked right now in getting what you want, check in for a moment to see if you’re a ‘yeah … but-er…’

Do you have reasons and excuses in your mind that you keep telling yourself that are holding you back?

Ahem, things like ‘yeeeeeah … buuuut …’
:: I don’t have what it takes (I need to learn more)
:: I’m not good enough
:: I don’t have the money
:: I don’t have the time
:: It won’t work for me
:: People don’t want to hear what I have to say
:: I’m not good at _____ (or I don’t know how to do it)
:: I’m afraid
:: I can’t do this
:: I lack focus/not organized enough
:: I’m not as good as he/she is

OR, are you open and willing to all possibilities? Because that’s what’s required if you want to manifest your miracles!

If you want to call in the things you desire, ya gotta stay open. And one step in the right direction to have that happen is to switch the “but” to “and.” It’s a game changer.

So if you catch yourself saying ‘yeah…but…,’ switch that up to ‘yes… and…’ then keep your heart open to possibilities that will move you towards what you want.

To give you some examples :
:: Yes, I don’t have the money, and I know I can create it
:: Yes, I am afraid, and I’m going to go for it anyway!
:: Yes, there may be people who don’t want to hear what I have to say, and there are people who do!

Our language creates our reality. Use language that supports you in achieving all that your heart desires, because you deserve it.

Comment below and let me know if you’re going to go from ‘yeah, but’ to ‘yes, and’!

And if you do, what new action will you take today as you ‘yes, and’ something in your life?

Much love,
Steph

Mar 12th, 2016
 

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